Publisher: Daniels G.O
Credit: United Nations
Their Gathering on 21st of May 2022 was unusually different as they delved into to a topical issue of Domestic violence now eating up the foundation of our society the homes.
With the theme “Domestic Violence Who is to be Blamed” Speakers were able to address the issue from different perspectives.
While Majority Blamed the home front and Parental Negligence in the up bringing of their Children,Moral decadence, Westernization, Drug Abuse, some attributed it to the prevailing Harsh Economic situation, Depression And wrong Choice Of Marriage Partners.
Before we get to their resolution, let’s look at the definition of Domestic Violence according to the united Nations.
The United Nations Describes Domestic Violence as a pattern of Behaviour in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain Power or control Over an intimate Partner.
Domestic Violence is not limited to Gender, Race ,Age or Religion.
It can come in physical form,Mental,Sexual or Economic In Nature.
Recognizing the signs of domestic abuse as outlined by the United Nations
Does your partner…
- Embarrass you in front of your friends or make you feel like you are unable to Take decision
- Use intimidation or Force to make you comply?
- Tell you that you are nothing without them?
- Treat you roughly,grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you
- Call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you said you are?
- Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
- Blame you for how they feel or act?
- Pressure you sexually for things you aren’t ready for?
- Make you feel like there is “no way out” of the relationship?
- Prevent you from doing things you want – like spending time with friends or family?
- Try to keep away from you after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to “teach you a lesson”?
- Sometimes feel scared of how your partner may behave?
- Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner’s behaviour?
- Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
- Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?
- Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
- Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke up?
If any of these things are happening in your relationship, talk to someone. Without help, the abuse will continue. Making that first call to seek help is a courageous step.
The recent Case that led to the death of Nigerian Gospel Singer Osinachi Nwachukwu was a big shocker to many and a trigger to unite in the Battle Against Domestic Violence in Nigeria.
Uniting to Achieve this set goal, Reverend Mrs Shoke Mohammad and her team of discussants believe there must be deliberate effort in prayers, Seeking the face of God and family approval in the choice of choosing a Partner, Mutual Respect between couples , total compliance to the Biblical injunction of Love And Submissiveness, the need for economic empowerment for married Couples And seeking Mental health Check when the need arises.
A Brief History Of Hour Of Fruitfulness Praise Fellowship And Adi Health Care Initiative.
With the commencement of the fellowship, they started reaching out to communities so as to promote and care for their health, education, social and physical Needs According to Reverend Mrs Shoke,
“We started organizing programmes where they are taught healthy life style and how to prevent communicable diseases, how to manage stress without Drugs Abuse,How to
have good nutrition with less capital, how to draw up a scale of preference to manage their lives with little income and still be happy without stress.
As the programme began to expand,the need to set up Adi health care initiative which is a registered NGO became inevitable.
For More information on this Subject ,Counselling or how to access help concerning issues of Domestic Violence,Call Reverend Mrs Mohammed on 0803 420 2002.